eugh i feel like i'm the last girl standing in the girlpocalypse, living in a city that every close friend I've had has now moved away from. it's very sad but i keep holding out that i'll have a new phase of girlfriends as i enter into the weirdness of my thirties.
A friend of mine messaged me after this and told me the silver lining is that for every friend she’s had get married she’s made two new friends and her bonds with them are deep and special in a different way for being in similar life stage. Makes me feel hopeful!
i am just entering my mid-twenties; still thankfully early days for my friends to be centering relationships and building “settled” lives yet, but i have anticipatory grief surrounding it still. in many ways, for their marriages and life projects to be successful, i know i will need to let them be closer to their partners than they are to me. and that is an uncomfortable form of love i am working to cultivate 🩷 thank you for your take!
eugh i feel like i'm the last girl standing in the girlpocalypse, living in a city that every close friend I've had has now moved away from. it's very sad but i keep holding out that i'll have a new phase of girlfriends as i enter into the weirdness of my thirties.
A friend of mine messaged me after this and told me the silver lining is that for every friend she’s had get married she’s made two new friends and her bonds with them are deep and special in a different way for being in similar life stage. Makes me feel hopeful!
stoppp that last line is so beautiful and true, but adjusting to the new reality comes with its own grief!!! I feel you so much.
Thank you so much!!
this made me cry
i am just entering my mid-twenties; still thankfully early days for my friends to be centering relationships and building “settled” lives yet, but i have anticipatory grief surrounding it still. in many ways, for their marriages and life projects to be successful, i know i will need to let them be closer to their partners than they are to me. and that is an uncomfortable form of love i am working to cultivate 🩷 thank you for your take!
“Anticipatory grief” — That’s exactly it! Thank you for reading!
obsessed with every word of this. 💖🥺 thank you for articulating this feeling so well!!!
love this one!!! exactly how this stage of life feels.
ugh. i miss my friends. thank you for this.
Crying alone in front of a sushi conveyor belt reading this. I relate deeply. Sending to the girls group chat now